R U PHIL? This acronym asks the question, "R U Playing Hurt In Life?" I played hurt in the game of life due to years of sexual abuse as a child.  My journey to healing gave me the ability to not only survive but thrive in life.  I did this through a process of self-reflection, counseling, esteem building and the development of principles that I continue to live my life by.  During my keynote addresses, coaching and mentoring I discuss these techniques along with dealing with stereotypes as a male survivor of sexual abuse.